The question is how many of those marriages could be saved. Unfortunately, that is an invisible number. If your marriage stays together, it is hard to find in the statistics. As Marian Wright Edelman wrote, statistics are stories with the tears washed off.
Can your marriage be saved? If I could answer that, I would be a wealthy man. I can tell you that if your marriage is in trouble and you do nothing, the outcome is guaranteed. If you do something, there is a much better chance that your marriage will be saved.
And I can tell you, in four simple steps what you can do to save your marriage. You can start right now. But you must understand that I said "simple." That is not the same as "easy." These steps are not easy. They do, however, give you a path that you must follow if you want to change the destiny of a marriage in trouble.
How To Save Your Marriage After Cheating
So, you've had an affair against your wife, the love of your life, and you want to get her back.
Whether your wife knows about your affair or not, I want to help you figure out the most efficient and most effective way to rebuild yourself a marriage that will make both you AND your wife happy.
3 Tips to Save Your Marriage After Cheating
As you make your way through the rest of this article you're going to be learning what you can do to increase your chances of making it through your unfaithfulness.
Each and every one of these tips is designed to help you convince your wife that you love her, and help YOU get the marriage that you want.
#1. Confess What You've Done To Your Wife
This is one of the most important things that you MUST do if you're serious about having a legitimate relationship with your wife.
Even if you're wife already knows about your affair, this same rule still applies to anything else to do with the infidelity. For example, if your ex-lover contacts you then you owe it to your wife to tell her about it.
Failing to do so could very well result in the end of your marriage through a long, painful divorce.
And we don't want that, do we?
#2. Forgive Yourself For Having an Affair
This is one of the most misunderstood issues in affair recovery...The cheating spouse's emotional issues are rarely addressed, but the fact remains that you need to get through this emotional trauma, too.
If you've cheated on your wife then you probably feel pretty bad about yourself right now. You know how badly you've hurt your wife, and now you want to know what you can do to help her through the pain.
Well, if you want my two cents, the best thing you can do for your wife is forgive yourself for cheating. It's only once you have your confidence back that you'll be able to successfully save your marriage.
#3. Back Up Your Words With Actions
Right now your wife probably has you on VERY thin ice.
Am I right?
I mean, I don't know many women who immediately trust their husbands again after they've cheated. At this point in the marriage, it's absolutely crucial that your wife have no doubt in her mind about what your intentions are.
How do you make sure that happens? Well, you need to structure your actions so that she believes every word you say. I'm sure if you take some time to think about it you'll better understand what you need to do.
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