Why as a divorce mediator are you writing about how to save a marriage relationship? Isn’t it your job to help couples end their marriage with a no-fault divorce?
Honestly, I was thinking the same thing…
Yes, my job is to help couples divorce peacefully and it isn't my role to help a husband and wife find a way to save the marriage. But divorce mediation is only appropriate when both spouses are on the same page.
If one of you wants to end your marriage but the other wants to know how to save a marriage on the brink of divorce, there’s not much I can do.
How To Save Your Marriage When You Are Drowning In Problems That Seem To Strangle Your Relationship
So you are a couple with marital problems, you are not alone, perhaps you would like to know how to save your marriage when problems seem to strangle the very life out of your relationship.
Saving your marriage from ending in divorce is usually possible, though I will not promise it will be easy. Fortunately, I think you will find the trip quite enjoyable when we succeed.
Perhaps your marriage is nothing but petty squabbling, even common courtesies having been discontinued. Maybe one of you is sleeping on the couch or that old army cot in the basement.
I heard in a movie once a line that seemed quite insightful, and I have seem the wisdom of it when analyzing so many marriage difficulties.
That line is "why are you always fixing blame instead of fixing the problem?"
You see, in many marriages any problem in life that is identified must have a person who is at fault. Since few of us want to take the blame for anything, let alone something that is maybe no one's fault, the blame may end up fixed on your spouse - or on you.
A marriage is intended to be a partnership. If you can work together to fix problems and not worry about fixing blame, you can actually build your relationship as you work through the problems.
But that takes something that is probably missing in your marriage. Communication.
If you want to know how to save your marriage then learn how to reestablish communication.
Here is where a little time travel comes into play. Not real time travel, of course, but mentally go back to the time the two of you were dating and think about what you may have talked about.
Everything, right?
Not so after a few years of marriage, though, would be my guess. Your conversations become fewer, shorter and more abrupt. While this may be common it is not normal nor desired.
Sure, no one told you a good marriage was work, did they?
Now is the time to shift gears back into dating mode, as I suspect that you and your spouse never "date" anymore. Dating can be expensive and money can be short, especially after you start a family.
There are alternatives for dating that do not cost a lot of money, though, and with the internet I am sure you can come up with some ideas quite easily. Dinner and a movie may have been normal fare back then, but maybe not now.
A short walk and some ice cream may do just as well and actually give you more time to talk than a movie where you sit next to the person but do not know them any better after the show than before.
Saving your marriage is about making priorities.
Schedule some time for just talking. Do NOT talk about problems at first. Back when you were dating you probably talked about things that were more trivial and just enjoyed talking with the person who became your spouse.
Make another time for talking about and solving problems life throws at you. Resolve to solve those problems together without assigning blame all the time.
There is no one exact step by step approach for how to save your marriage [http://relationshipadvicehelp.com/blog/how-to-save-your-marriage/] but there are principles that tend to work and strategies others have found successful.
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Mr. Scott has enjoyed assisting people with relationship and marriage issues for many years now. Please note that he may occasionally receive some form of compensation when recommending other experts services or products.
So There You Have It! Expert Advice on How to Save a Marriage
If you found even one piece of advice shared by our experts helpful, I'm really glad.
And I hope what you've gathered from this article is that saving your marriage from divorce takes a lot of work, requires time and commitment from both spouses, and it won't happen overnight.
But it is possible!
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